Clarity and Confidence towards the Future of your Marriage.
Short Term Powerful Therapy to Discover a Path Forward.
Are you stuck in ambivalence and avoiding the decision to stay married or divorce?
Maybe it looks something like this:
You feel stuck in the same painful patterns—resentment, distance, or conflict—but don’t know how to break free.
You worry that ending your marriage might be a mistake and wonder if you’ve truly tried everything.
You’re exhausted from the emotional ups and downs, unsure if things can ever really change.
You feel torn between staying and leaving, uncertain about what the future holds either way.
Guilt weighs on you—this isn’t the outcome you wanted, and it feels like a failure.
You worry about what divorce would mean for your kids, not wanting to disrupt their lives but also questioning if staying is best.
Part of you still cares for your partner, but the pain, disconnection, or misunderstandings feel overwhelming.
You feel pressure from family, friends, or even your own beliefs about marriage, making the decision even harder.
You try to talk, but the conversations go in circles—someone gets defensive, shuts down, or nothing really changes.
The thought of being alone scares you, but so does the idea of staying in a marriage that feels broken.
You’re afraid of what divorce would mean financially, emotionally, or for your future.
You hold onto hope that things could get better, but you don’t know where to start.
how i can help
Discernment Counseling is designed for you. It’s a chance to slowdown, take a breath, and look at your options for your marriage.
Clarity and Insights Await:
If you or your spouse are considering divorce but are not completely sure that’s the best path, you are in a tough spot. Discernment Counseling is a new way of helping couples where one person is “leaning out” of the relationship—and not sure that regular couples therapy would help--and the other is "leaning in”—that is, interested in rebuilding the marriage.
The process will help you decide whether to try to restore your marriage to health, move toward divorce, or take a time out and decide later.
The goal is for you to gain clarity and confidence about a direction, based on a deeper understanding of your relationship and its possibilities for the future.
The goal is not to solve your marital problems but to see if they are solvable. You will each be treated with compassion and respect no matter how you are feeling about your marriage at the moment. No bad guys and good guys.
You will come in as a couple but the most important work occurs in the one-to-one conversations with the counselor. Why? Because you are starting out in different places.
Your reasons for divorce will be respected while trying to open up the possibility of restoring the marriage to health.
The process emphasizes the importance of each of you seeing your own contributions to the problems and the possible solutions. This will be useful in future relationships even if this one ends.
imagine if you…
Could acknowledge the fear of choosing between couples therapy and divorce and have the right space to make that decision.
Experienced a judgement- free zone to explore the decision to divorce or repair a marriage.
Learned new and profound insights to explore your own contribution to the marriage issues. Knowledge is power.
Shifted into a state of clarity and confidence around how to respond to the marriage distress.
I want you to know:
You have the answers inside of you.
Even for the big questions in life.
faqs
Common questions about Discernment Counseling
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This process is a maximum of 5 sessions. The first session is 2 hours and the subsequent sessions are 1.5 hours.
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Discernment Counseling is not suited for these situations:
When one spouse has already made a final decision to divorce
When one spouse is coercing the other to participate
When there is danger of domestic violence
Ready to get started?